Proverbs 27:19
As water reflects the face, so one’s life reflects the heart.
What are you expecting from others? Love? Acceptance? Support? Understanding? Kindness? Are you expecting others to stay in their own business and not be judgmental? Are you giving yourself these things? What does your life reflect? What do your actions show? It starts with you. Being upset, disturbed and allowing yourself to get stressed out by how someone else behaves is pointless. Believing you are the reason for why they behave the way they do is irrational. Taking it all personal is a waste of time. The only person you can change is you. No matter what you do or say you can’t force someone to change. You may impact their life in a positive way, but you aren’t what determines if they work on themselves.
You are to be your best friend. You need to show up for you and give yourself a break. Change and loving kindness is the greatest gift you can give yourself. How are you showing up for you today? Can you rely on you to not to give up on you, to call you names, to run when facing conflict, to support you, and to not put you down? Can you rely on you to believe in you and recognize how amazing and beautiful you are? Build a relationship with yourself where you can depend on you. Take small steps toward supporting yourself. See your value and don’t question it. You move forward by making active moves in your life. Focus on you and stop waiting for someone else to shift or give you what you need. Only God is perfect and can give you all you need a hundred percent of the time. He restores. He gives life. He is the light to seek when you are surrounded in darkness and feel unmotivated to move. Partner with Him.
The enemy would like nothing more than to partner with you and to have all your focus be on changing everyone around you. He wants you to be disturbed by other people’s actions and to take everything personal. He tries to get you to believe that you will arrive at a place of peace once everyone else has been fixed and behaving the way you want them to behave. The enemy wants you to be annoyed by everyone and to talk about how they are not measuring up. He wants you to be so consumed with others that you abandon yourself. You stop supporting you. The enemy is working to deem you valueless. He wants you to place all your value on what others think of you and what you have. He wants you to expect everyone around you to comply with how you want things to be, so you can be comfortable and remain where you are at. By doing that you fail to show up for you.
You are not alone in this. God is working with you on you. He is transforming you. He is moving you. He is moving you towards a better attitude, a joyful heart, and a mind shift. God wants you to show up for you and support you. You can’t give to others what you can’t give to yourself. You also can’t receive from others what you can’t receive from yourself. Your progress is blocked by the lack of support you give yourself. Decide to change that. Make a list today of how you can support you. What does it mean to show up for yourself?
Showing Up for Me Means
Being honest with myself and others
Having clear expectations
Communicating my needs
Giving myself time each day for self-care
Staying out of the past
Allowing myself to be human
Prayer
Father God,
Thank You for partnering with me and helping me move forward. Thank You for being loving, kind and patient. You can be relied on one hundred percent of the time. Forgive me for for all the time and energy I spend being in other people's business. Forgive me for not supporting me. Help me to remember that supporting and loving me means supporting and and loving You. Give me a core peace that reminds me who I am and appreciate how and why you created me the way I am. When I am dealing with difficult situations may my first instinct be to look inward and find how I can change to help the situation. This could simply be a change of perspective.
In Jesus' name,
Amen
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