Matthew 18:19
19 “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.
Mark 10:9
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate
Marriage is sacred. It is a partnership. It is a friendship. It is a covenant between you, your spouse and God. It is a covenant to have and to hold in sickness and in health. It is a promise to remain when things get hard. It is a place to trust that you can be you. You can grow, stagnate, shine and even fail. It is a willingness to get uncomfortable in order to stretch with one another to protect the vow of love. But in order to do all this you must see each other, accept each other for who you are and where you are at. It is an acceptance that pushes past the ugliness of some days and drudgery of others to find a deeper beauty within commitment. It is an acceptance that sees the other person and calls them to grow.
Your spouse is your partner. They are your love gifted to you from God. Do you see them? Do you really see them or simply look past them because you are wrapped up in your own pain? Wrapped up in your own needs and what you want to get from them? Are you seeking from them what only God can give you? Complete acceptance. Complete love. Complete peace. Instead of leaning into God you get distracted and this pulls you away from your covenant.
Take five minutes today and every day to look at your spouse, sit with them and seek them. Be still with them. Sit and look in their eyes and see what God sees. Put aside everything else for five minutes and be devoted to your spouse, your partner.
Put aside what you want to get and instead give.
Put aside any anger and extend forgiveness.
Put aside any hurt and sit in love.
Put aside any doubts and just believe.
Put aside disappointment and be grateful.
Put aside any distance and become close.
Life gets busy. Life can be hard. The easiest person to ignore and neglect is that one person you took vows with. This is the person you take advantage of having by your side. This is the person it is easiest to blame when things go south. You can choose to run or dig in. You can choose to quit or fight. You can choose to harden your heart or find the softness.
The enemy wants you to choose him. See your marriage as a burden. See it as the reason for your unhappiness and despair. When things aren’t going right it is because you don’t get enough support at home. You aren’t loved enough, appreciated enough or you don’t have enough in common. The enemy keeps focus on all that is wrong, so you don’t see all that is right. He wants you to choose quitting and running. The enemy wants you to give up on those you love, anyone you love. He targets your spouse. He wants to take away your partner. He wants to convince you that you are alone, so you make the move to be alone. He is aiming for you. The enemy is determined to destroy marriage. He is aware that where two are gathered God is there. Two are always gathered in a marriage. The power in marriage is immense. Gathered in His name. Gathered in love. So, the enemy wants to distract you with your own wants and needs. He wants you to believe that your desires matter more than your partner and most of all more than God’s.
If your marriage is failing it is missing a piece of the partnership. The partnership needs to be between the two of you and God. Without that it is two people operating solely by themselves. Invite God into your marriage to guide it and to protect it. You can have a relationship with God. Your spouse can have a relationship with God. But if your marriage doesn’t have a relationship with God it is in danger of attack. It is in danger of not surviving.
What are God’s desires for you, your partner, for your marriage? Have you asked? Or do you just assume. Do you assume He can’t fix it, He can’t heal it, or can’t be bothered? There are things you won’t give to Him. You try to control. What you must understand is that everything needs to be given to Him. Give Him your marriage. Give it all to Him to heal. It is His to heal in His way. Healing may look different than expected. Restoration may not be what you think. You have no clue what God desires. That is what you pray for. Pray you desire what God desires and accept what God desires.
Perhaps God is taking you out or has taking you out of something for a reason. Perhaps it is for just a moment or perhaps it is a permanent move. He may be a calling you to let go and keep moving on. Only God knows. It is His to resolve in any way He chooses. He will work in you. He will work in your partner. He knows the situation. He sees all. He does not want you to stay in situations that are dangerous, demoralizing, or emotionally hurtful. He will do what is best. God’s best will always allow you to grow, be happy and to shine.
Ask God and don’t limit Him.
Ask God and don’t question Him.
Ask God and don’t doubt Him.
Ask God and then give it to Him.
And be still.
Take your humanness out of it. Dig deep and believe. Believe, proclaim, and most of all trust in the power of God. Trust, without boundaries, in whatever direction He has moved you or will move. Stand in Faith. Rest with God. He will silence all your fears.
Prayer
Father God,
Thank You for the for time I spent with my spouse that resulted in the birth of my beautiful children. Thank You for the extended family my marriage blessed me with. They all are a constant gift in my life. Forgive me for not partnering with you. You are guiding, healing, and restoring in ways that only you understand. May my friends and family, who are in marriages, partner with you to protect the sacredness of their vows and truly understand what it means to have and to hold. May those that are experiencing divorce lean into You and trust You will bring the best out of a hard situation. You will bring restoration to their hearts and the desire to let go. Help all, through Your strength, to find the ability to be happy for one another beyond divorce. Help all of us to be still and know You are God. You are in control.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
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